Help to Find Love

Helping single women over 40 to find their love

ARE YOU READY TO FIND LOVE?

Published by Alicia on August 16, 2009

I learnt the hard way that I was not ready to find love at all.  I spent a number of years searching to find love.  I met many men online, formed relationships and then met them.  Some of the men were average, some really nice and some wonderful and possible loves.

I then found the one that I thought would be my Mr Right and I moved in with him after a couple of weeks of knowing him.  As I had been single for a while, I wanted to see how compatible we were living together.  I probably would not have done this except that he lived three hours away.

With one thing and the other it did not last past a few weeks.  Surprise, surprise you may be saying but I did see real potential in him.  I committed some cardinal sins though – I slept with him the day I met him (no chase for him there!), I constantly talked about my feelings and how we were progressing (also a no no – men hate listening to that emotional stuff) and finally I was not improving mentally!  No – I am not a nutter but I did have depression at that time.  And yes I know, I would not see a difference that early but in fact I seemed to be getting worse with some panic attacks happening.

You see, I was not ready for love.  Corny as it may sound, I did not love myself and I had huge self worth issues.  I am mumbling to myself here as I say ‘you have to love yourself before you can love another’.  I had always hated that saying and in fact did not really understand how I could love myself.  What I mean is, I had really only heard things like …look in the mirror and say to yourself every morning … “I love you”.  Well I think many of you would agree that this sounds soooo corny and how in the world would that make any difference to find love?

Over the next number of months I pulled back my efforts in the dating area and decided that I needed to find out how to love myself and get out of depression.  I kept a couple of close friends for ‘hugs’ and went on my search.

While I will talk about being a better ‘you’ to make yourself into a guy magnet, I will also give you the benefit of my years of online dating experience and help you find a variety of resources to assist you in your own search to find love.  

Your feedback on what you would like to hear about would also be appreciated.

To Success and Passion in Your Life!
Alicia

 

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